I wanted to provide a quick update on this subject and share some information from my doctor on the subject of why my hyperemesis gravidarum seemed so short compared to what so many others experience.
Ultimately, it boils down to mean, hard statistics. The subset of HGers that find their way into the HG community are often ones for whom the HG does not ease in any sort of “normal” time frame. I put scare quotes around the word normal because there really and truly is a wide variation. Most of the people who seek solace in the community are ones who need longer term emotional and physical support. It’s a skewed sample.
You don’t hear as much from HGers like me because many of them aren’t as driven to write about it once it passes. They simply fall off the radar once they stop feeling ill. She reminded me that the studies do show that early, aggressive treatment does impact the length and severity of hyperemesis gravidarum. I happened to fall on the friendly side of the statistics.
She also mentioned that the reason we generally reject the notion that the hyperemesis gravidarum will clear up at 12 weeks is because it’s being told to women at the same time that they’re being told to “suck it up” and that it’s “just part of being pregnant.” In cases like that, the inadequate treatment almost guarantees that the hyperemesis gravidarum will not clear up. Aside from that, you really don’t know when it will stop. False hope can be a devastating thing. I know that first hand from my first pregnancy.
I asked her if what I had was really and truly hyperemesis gravidarum, and she very emphatically assured me that it was. This really helped me emotionally because there’s a huge part of me that worried that I was just exaggerating the whole thing. My mind is already starting to erase the memories of the experiences I had. Knowing that what I experienced was real makes a huge difference for me.
Good News of the Day: The ultrasound results came back just fine. Little Muggle-Wump is doing great in there! And she’s definitely a girl.
Sad News of the Day: Today was my last appointment with my doctor. I’m being released totally into the care of the midwives. I am so grateful for how understanding and supportive she is about the whole thing. While I didn’t like her front desk people and one of her partners, I really and truly can’t say enough wonderful things about the care I received from her. She is amazing.