Dear Duchess Kate,
I just heard the news that you have been hospitalized for Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I am so, so sorry to hear that you are sick, and I wanted to let you know that I understand what you are going through. Hyperemesis gravidarum is a very special kind of hell that most people can’t even imagine.
The newspapers said that you haven’t hit the 12 week mark yet, so I am going to guess that the HG is just starting to ramp up. I know that you are receiving the very best care that medical science can provide, and for that I am grateful. This early, things may get worse before they get better, but it will get better. I promise you, it will get better. You have a long road ahead of you, but please hold faith in your heart that when your beautiful baby is born, you will feel better.
You may hear some ugly things from people now that this has hit the news. People may attack you for taking the very medicine that is saving your life and your baby’s life. They may attack you for losing too much weight, for not eating enough, for not eating enough of the “right” foods. (Actually, they probably do that already.) They may tell you to stop whining about how sick you are (even though you haven’t whined at all). They may tell you to just eat some food and get over it. We, your HG sisters, have all heard these things, but you will probably hear it worse than we ever did because instead of coming from individuals, it will come from tabloids and newspapers.
Please ignore them. Let other people worry about it. Your road right now is hard enough. Surround yourself with the love and support of your family, and know that there are other women out there who have survived HG and who are thinking of you. We know what it’s like to not be able to eat. We know how it feels to think your body is broken. We know what it’s like when our doctors tell us to go home and eat a cracker and sip some water. We know you love your baby and we know that you are fighting for your life and the life of your baby. You are not alone.
I am so sorry that you have hyperemesis gravidarum. I promise you that it isn’t a forever thing. The HG community is a powerful sisterhood and I know that there are many who will add their voices and prayers to mine to say that it gets better. Not today, not tomorrow, but it will get better.
With love and Solidarity,