I’ve noticed when people in the past have left Facebook or taken time off, and it’s always left me with a strange feeling. With the exception of my HG friend, I’ve noticed that the leaving of facebook often goes along with statements about superficiality and “real” friendships and “authentic” communication, and that has always sat kind of wrong with me. It sometimes even includes lectures about how the rest of us should or should not live our lives.
It doesn’t seem fair to the other people who enjoy Facebook to try to attach definitions to the way they communicate. It doesn’t seem right to minimize the very real feelings of other people in order to help yourself redefine the way you live your life.
So let me be very clear: My leaving Facebook isn’t some grand social statement on the evils of social media. It’s about me. Plain and simple.
It’s about me spending too much time online and not enough time with my family. It’s about me avoiding other people in real life because they make me nervous. And most of all, it’s about me connecting with my family and my children.
It has been a strange few days. I’ve noticed that I tend to think of my activities in terms of Facebook posts. The minutiae of my life, that no one really cares about, seems like headline news. The complexity that makes me who I am has gotten lost in headlines and short statements.
The temptation here, of course, is to turn to twitter. The urge to share can be satisfied in numerous ways. To combat this urge, I’ve reduced my twitter activity and logged out of my twitter account to make sharing more difficult. If it’s not effortless, I remember that I’m not supposed to do it.
It will be interesting to see how my thought patterns change as this progresses. Minds are flexible things, so I am eager to see how I grow and change as the weeks go by.
Just a note: While I am off of Facebook, I still have my wordpress account connected to my blog’s facebook page. Despite the fact that these are auto-posting to Facebook, I am not checking for or moderating comments, so please, if you have something to say in response to my blog posts, come here to the blog to say it. That way, I will see your comment and be able to respond.